Miss Independent by Ne-Yo

Girls often wonder what guys find attractive. I guess it varies from guy to guy. A lot of guys tend to favor easy, maybe even desperate girls. They like to do as little work as possible to secure what they feel will be more of an object than an equal companion. However, the best guys, of which Stewart is definitely a part, prefer girls who are friendly, but have their own thing going on. Such guys, because they are guys, seek to be adored. But they don't want to be too adored. They want to compete with a girl's other interests, such as song-writing, composing in general, cello playing, writing, blogging, socializing with other friends etc. That's not to say these guys won't reach below their standards in times of desperation or boredom. That's why it's necessary for my process to move quickly.

Basically, over the course of today, between attending class, writing song-lyrics, and writing the music to such lyrics, I have compiled a flow chart for my investigation in my head. I suppose because it's beneficial to me on the whole, I will share. It is a bit personal, but it is a necessary component of my investigation and the overall management of this project. It is my belief that if you approach every quest as a step-by-step project, life becomes more organized naturally.

Here is a verbal description of my flow chart. I was going to upload a photo file but I'll save that for the next blog.

So basically: I will not initiate communication with Stewart before Saturday (which pretty much means I won't speak to him because if you read my last blog, you know that Stewart's not skilled in initiating electronic communication). Saturday, this means, is a very important day. It marks the beginning of the flow chart.

Saturday's events will spark one of two branches depending on if the day goes well or poorly. This is not a concrete dividing line I admit. However, if I have a negative impulse, I will pursue option 1. If I have a positive impulse concerning the status of the relationship at the end of the day, I will pursue option 2.

Option 1: I wait until November 14th to resume significant communication. In person I must be reserved and online I must refrain from speaking to him unless necessary for band communication. Hopefully by the end of this breather, everything will have reached a more stable place.

Option 2: If Saturday goes reasonably well, the flow chart continues. On Tuesday, I will send the remaining two files to the band. On Thursday, I will chat him on AIM. I will make small talk and then mention that it is strange for Halloween to be on a Saturday. I will ask him if he has any plans back at boarding school. If he does, I will let the case alone and exit the chat when appropriate. If he doesn't have plans, then I will make small talk about my plans (whether they exist or not.) Before leaving the chat, I will mention that my plans do not begin until 6:30 or 7 pm and I will therefore have time to spend hanging around music school. I will ask if he wants to chill a bit and get coffee later. In order to ease the randomness, I will say that "I've been curious lately." He can interpret that statement in whatever way he wills. As long as it pads the randomness of my inquiry, it will have done its job. Based on Stewart's response, this option will split into one of two sub-options.

Option 2a: If Stewart declines my offer, I will hold off on any more offers or significant communication until the next band rehearsal which I'm thinking will be in early December.

Option 2b: If Stewart accepts my offer, I will begin to diagram the next flow chart in my head, and to you all.

The next few days are heavily concerned with the perfection of my college application and my scholarship submission. Because I have planned heavily in advance, I am not freaking out and am in a considerably good place. I will keep you updated on Saturday's turn out.

Miss Independent out. =)

Lyrics to "Miss Independent":

[Verse 1]
Ooh there's somethin about just somethin about the way she's move
And I can't figure it out
there's something about her.
Said ooh it's somethin about kinda woman that want you but don't need you
And I can't figure it out
it's somethin about her
Cause she walk like a boss talk like a boss
Manicured nailed to set the pedicure off
She's fly effortlessly
Cause she move like a boss do what a boss
Do she got me thinkin about gettin involved
That's the kinda girl I need

[Chorus]
She got her own thing
that's why I love her
Miss Independent
Won't you come and spend a little time
She got her own thing that's why I love her
Miss Independent
ooh the way you shine
Miss Independent
yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah

[Verse 2]
Ooh there's somethin about
kinda woman that can do for herself
I look at her and it makes me proud
There's something about her
Somethin oh so sexy about
kinda woman that don't even need my help
She said she got it she got it
No doubt, it's somethin about her
Cause she work like a boss play like a boss
Car and a crib she bouta pay em both off
And the bills are paid on time yeah
She made for a boss only a boss
Anything less she telling them to get lost
That's the girl that's on my mind

[Chorus]

[Bridge]
Her favorite thing to say Don't worry I got it
And everything she got best believe she bought it
She gonna steal ma heart ain't no doubt about it
You're everything I need, said you're everything I need
yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah, yeah yeah yeah

[Chorus]

Miss Independent
That's why I love her

Link to Music Video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6coobo3nzQ