Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Dear

Jacob Emmanuel - April 11, 2009 - I have to make the train so we walk out together and she leaves the weird amp equipment in the closet this time. The rain has stopped and we kiss goodbye by the train. My parents ask me how my rehearsal was later. I say it was excellent. I mean really. It was the best rehearsal I could have had. They stare oddly at each other and go back to talking with my brother, who is on April break. I walk upstairs to my room and lie on my bed, mulling everything over.

You’ve called me “dear” five times and each time it’s had a profound affect on me, which is why I remember the situation surrounding every time. The first time was when we were dating – shows you don’t use the term regularly. I was giving off my first signs of paranoia concerning your friendships with other girls. “Am I not allowed to have other friends who are girls?” you asked. “I was joking,” I lied. You replied honestly, “As am I, dear.”

The next time was rather uneventful-seeming. We were making plans to meet up in the city, but we needed to sneak, as usual, around your parents. The chat appeared on my previously blank screen. “Hi dear.” It may have meant nothing to you, but that one little word meant the world to me. Throughout the months following our break-up, I forgot its impact. But that one day in December reminded me.

It was nearly 12 in the morning and I’d invited you to the city to eat with a group of our mutual friends the next evening. I asked you why you were up so late past your usual bedtime and you said you’d been chilling. I tried to ignore the climbing feeling of unease in my stomach and relaxed when the crowd seemed to have been predominantly male. However, not the same guys I’d become acquainted with during our period of dating. “I didn’t know you switched friend groups so quickly.” “Wrong assumption dear.”

For the majority of January, I thought I’d never speak to you again. I thought you were making the world a worse place. When I snapped back, I was just as surprised as you were, even more so. One Saturday night I chatted you, wondering what you’d thought of the rehearsal I’d dropped into because I was “bored.” We ended up talking about your typical “stoned” behavior at Juilliard. Finally, you admitted that you felt restricted. “I wish you didn’t,” I replied but in all honesty I was just happy you’d opened up. I shivered at your reply. “I can’t help it dear.”

I turned to Aidan soon after that, performing my almost polished stunt of shutting you out. If you knew how easily you can bring me back, with one little word even, maybe you’d lose respect for me. Or maybe you’d realize the truth, which is that I’d never gone. But I’m keeping it hidden, even labeling you as my “gay friend” if necessary.

The fifth time transformed Sadie’s Facebook status into a ground for subconscious confession. I quoted a silly yet apt mantra of yours, but apparently mixed up some phrasing. “But alas dear, I’m afraid you have misquoted.” You corrected me with your subtle insertion of the magic word. I make it a habit of running from its heavy impact or extending it too far for either of us to reach. Maybe this time, with some luck, it’ll be just right.

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Bits and Pieces Pt. 1

I go to music school every Saturday at Juilliard. I’m a composer in the Pre-College Division, which is in part, as many people call it, a moneymaker for the college. But I see it primarily as a venue for talented young musicians to hone their skills and have ample opportunity to express them. I am halfway through my fifth and final year and I can tell you it’s been quite the ride.

My involvement in the composition, cello and vocal departments adds up to a lot of welcome yet strenuous work. When placed side by side with the drama caused by my various romantic endeavors in the composition department and the presence of my dynamic and intense core group of friends, each Saturday demands a heavy load of physical and mental stamina. But for the three years preceding senior year, my weekly 12-hour, grueling, Juilliard days provided the light I needed to get through the monotonous tunnel of high school life, especially when guy were involved.

Before Aidan, I’d only ever been truly interested in composers. It started with Connor at camp. His mathematical approach to composing often made me wonder about the role of emotion in his music, but we all knew it was there. The sequences allowed him to maintain the order in his life which he values above all else. Emotion, by route, was second. But it was there.

Edward came next, also a student at our composition camp but a Juilliard composer as well. His music was tonal but effectively so. It unleashed the emotion that Edward could not express through simple conversations. I listened intently in the audience and that’s how I knew.

Jacob was atonal. And I knew that from the first day of Juilliard our junior year. He was the new kid in the room who found out quickly that he was an anomaly. We think of him as a craftsman whose goal in writing music is not to express but rather to create what sounds good. If I had realized how this philosophy applies to the bulk of his persona, I would have foreseen the outcome of our tumultuous relationship. Thankfully, for the sake of my growth, I did not.

Aidan is an anomaly. He told me recently that the extent of his compositional experience lies in the songs he formulates in the shower. “My siblings make fun of me,” he chuckled. The conversation was harmless at that point. The science notebooks were still open and he hadn’t yet begun his hour long dating-centered monologue, sprinkled with occasional, befuddled interventions by me. Unlike at Juilliard, the school hallway was quiet. We were a mere few feet from the school band room, but there were no sounds of musicians practicing in the background to add a supporting countermelody, like there had been for the starts of my other relationships. This time, I was faced with the silence and the challenge of filling it and for a natural filler of silence, this task proved less easy than it would seem.

Thursday, February 4, 2010

"Gravity" by Vienna Teng

My take on:

Gravity

I know your face
because it's been in my
head for years before I
saw you for the first
time I barely know
your name but I thought back in
time today and remembered
a conversation we had that had
fallen beneath the random
flirtations in the confines of my
memory

I know your childhood
because you told me it was
tough you were not born here and
when you were five you saw
things you should not have
seen I want to discuss this
with you again because I feel you
need to though you always
seem so
content I know you're probably not
and I wish I could reach out to
you but it might be too random at
this point in
time

I know your walk
because it's the same as ones
I've seen from men who are great
so I have the right to
assume you are equipped in a
similar way and I hope that
fate will give me an excuse
to know you like I want to or else I
have the right to assume this life
is lame which is surely
against my
will

I know your heart
without knowing you because
I know it is pure and open and it's
drawing me in like gravity if you are
indeed part of the path I have
pledged to follow I will go back in
time and find you because I don't
know you but I want you
to be
okay

Lyrics to "Gravity":

Hey love
Is that the name you're meant to have
For me to call

Look love
They've given up believing
They've turned aside our stories of the gentle fall

But don't you believe them
Don't you drink their poison too
These are the scars that words have carved
On me

Hey love
That's the name we've long held back
From the core of truth

So don't turn away now
I am turning in revolution
These are the scars that silence carved
On me

This the same place
No, not the same place
This is the same place, love
No, not the same place we've been before

Hey, love
I am a constant satellite
Of your blazing sun
My love
I obey your law of gravity
This is the fate you've carved on me
The law of gravity
This is the fate you've carved on me

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Sunday, January 31, 2010

"The Reason" by Hoobastank

I cannot talk about this directly. It is too painful. It's a feeling that burns my soul every time I start to accept its truth. But at the same time, it is a feeling that makes me feel complete - as if I am heading in the right direction. You've put on a lot of weight it's true...and your skin isn't as clear as it used to be. Yet, when our eyes meet and I see into you, you seem as beautiful as you always were. Even past the harshness of your words, you are beautiful. Even past the suppressed ridiculousness of your lies, you still are as beautiful as you were when I first met you.

I've said through my songs that I'm "Bounceable." Every time you knock me down and I swear never to speak to you again, I bounce back and learn to love you all over again. I cannot explain why and I will not. I will not make a big splash this time. There is no need. But just know that sometimes you are the sole reason I breathe, even though you have many times nearly caused me to stop breathing. Sometimes you are my sole source of direction, though you have many times caused me to lose every sense of direction I once possessed. Sometimes the look in your eyes is all I need to keep on hoping, though at times you have deprived me of all hope. Because darling, I know that you are good. I know that you are in essence the person I met at the beginning of last year. I know that you will continue to be that person and that we may only grow. And most of all, I know that you and I are not meant to end our relationship - our love - in such a manner. A year ago, exactly, you began to raise me from darkness. It is my turn to do the same for you. I do not need any other reason.

Lyrics to "The Reason":

I'm not a perfect person
There's many things I wish I didn't do
But I continue learning
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I've found out a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I'm sorry that I hurt you
It's something I must live with everyday
And all the pain I put you through
I wish that I could take it all away
And be the one who catches all your tears
Thats why i need you to hear

I've found out a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is You

and the reason is You [x3]

I'm not a perfect person
I never meant to do those things to you
And so I have to say before I go
That I just want you to know

I've found out a reason for me
To change who I used to be
A reason to start over new
and the reason is you

I've found a reason to show
A side of me you didn't know
A reason for all that I do
And the reason is you

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Sunday, January 24, 2010

"If Only She Knew" by Michelle Branch

Rogan. Rogan Samuels.

Lyrics to "If Only She Knew":

I don't know whose side I'm takin'
But I'm not takin' things too well
I can see inside you're achin'
But is it still too early for me to tell?

I try to help you out through the hardest of times
Your heart is in your throat and I'm speaking my mind
Though it looks as if it's over
I'm still not over you

'Cause I still love you like I did before
I know for sure that you still feel the same way I do
If only she knew
Whoa, if only she knew, oh

I try to let it go
but I don't know if I can take it
'Cause the way you looked at me
Made me see that I can't really fake it

I try to help you out through
the hardest of times
Your heart is in your throat and I'm speaking my mind
Though it looks as if it's over
I'm still not over you

'Cause I still love you like I did before
I know for sure that you still feel the same way I do
If only she knew
Whoa

I know she loves you and I can't interfere
So I'll just have to sit back and watch my world disappear
Whoa

I try to help you out through
the hardest of times
Your heart is in your throat and I'm speaking my mind
Though it looks as if it's over
I'm still not over you
Oh, I'm still not over you

'Cause I still love you like I did before
I know for sure that you still feel the same way I do
Whoa
'Cause I will never ever walk away
I'll find a way
She could never love you like I do
If only she knew

If only she knew, oh yeah
Na na na na na na na na.

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Thursday, January 14, 2010

"Battlefield" by Jordin Sparks

Love shouldn't be a battlefield. Love should be a nice partnership between two people that stays afloat as long as it remains functional and fizzles out when it loses spark. If it's "true love", assuming you believe in that as I do, the spark will not fade - or at least it will be in a constant state of rekindling. Often, it's hard to separate relationships in which the spark never fades from relationships in which the spark never existed. But that's a different story altogether.

My relationship with Jacob transformed a small portion of my life into a battlefield. Not only were we battling unnecessarily with each other, but others around us were dragged into the flanks. Sadie placed herself defiantly in the middle, hating me for my indecision while being too immature to understand the consequences and implications of her actions. Aggie got mutilated and cut down on the side. Jacob stayed in the back ranks, watching passively as the lines before him fell. And I, I'm sporting an array of battle scars that will never entirely fade, but they will prove my strength in that I endured them.

I guess in a way, life leads you through a number of battles. Each failed relationship is a battle in which many are wounded and few are completely victorious. The question is: Is there a point when the battles stop? Is there a point where a "true love" comes in and ends the war to create a period of lasting peace? That part is up for grabs. I can't say for sure how I feel about it. A lot of being in a relationship is luck. The timing has to work. The little intricacies of each situation have to add up correctly. However, I do not feel it is necessary to settle. I don't think it's necessary to sit passively on the sidelines without feeling.

These kinds of wars are the aftermath of a spark that fizzled out too quickly - without understanding. These kinds of wars indicate the presence of a deep caring that is reluctant to be torn apart. "I did not mean to start a war." But I did. It's over now and I've reached a graver plateau of understanding. Jacob is not who he once was to me. Sadie is no longer a friend I can trust. But I with my battle scars walk on, knowing that soon I will be granted a new beginning.

Lyrics to "Battlefield":

Don't try to explain your mind
I know what's happening
One minute it's love and suddenly
It's like a battle-field
One word turns into a
Why is it the smallest things that tear us down
My world's nothing when you don't
I'm not here without a shield
Can't go back now

Both hands tied behind my back with nothing
Oh no
These times when we climb so fast to fall again
Why we gotta fall for it now

I never meant to start a war
You know I never wanna hurt you
Don't even know what we're fighting for

Why does love always feel like ...
a battlefield (battlefield)
a battlefield (battlefield)
a battlefield (battlefield)
[repeat]
Why does love always feel like

Can't swallow our pride,
Neither of us wanna raise that flag
If we can't surrender
then we both gonna lose what we had, oh no

Both hands tied behind my back with nothing
(nothing)
Oh no, these times when we climb so fast to fall again
I don't wanna fall for it now

I never meant to start a war
You know I never wanna hurt you
Don't even know what we're fighting for

Why does love always feel like ...
a battlefield (battlefield)
a battlefield (battlefield)
a battlefield (battlefield)
[repeat]

I guess you better go and get your armor
(get your armor)
Get your armor (get your armor)
I guess you better go and get your armor
(get your armor)
Get your armor (get your armor)
I guess you better go and get your

We could pretend that we are friends tonight
And in the morning we'll wake up and we'll be alright
Cause baby we don't have to fight
And I don't want this love to feel like

A battlefield (oh), a battlefield (oh), a battlefield,
Why does love always feel like a battlefield (oh),
A battlefield (oh), a battlefield

I guess you better go and get your armor
I never meant to start a war (start a war)
You know I never wanna hurt you
Don't even know what we're fighting for
(fighting, fighting for)

Why does love always feel like ...
a battlefield (battlefield)
a battlefield (battlefield)
a battlefield (battlefield)
[repeat]

I guess you better go and get your armor
(get your armor)
Get your armor (get your armor)
I guess you better go and get your armor
(get your armor)
Get your armor (get your armor)

[slowly fade]
Why does love always feel like
(whooaa ooow)
Why does love always feel like
(whooaa ooow)
A battlefield, a battlefield..

[(whooaa ooow) throughout to end]
I never meant to start a war
Don't even know what we're fighting for
I never meant to start a war
Don't even know what we're fighting for
(whooaa ooow)
[fade out]

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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

"Let Go" by Frou Frou

How long ago was it since I broke up with Jacob for the first time? The answer is: over half a year. Yes. Over half a year and I have been wallowing in it for six long wasted months when I could have been spending my emotions for a better cause. You may wonder why I am stating this fact after my consistent waffling back and forth. However, do know that I have reached a new plateau - one that I could not have reached on my own but that it is about time I have reached.

Jacob is an ass. Many of you have probably inferred that from my repeated blogs and my toxic indecision. I suspect his has Narcissistic Personality Disorder because he exhibits all the signs but because he has not been diagnosed, I am hesitant to say for sure. I broke up with him six months ago because of his inability to relate and care. Looking back after the fact, I was able to convince myself that I was at fault and that Jacob had offered enough affection. However, fooled by the discrepancy between his current coldness and the slightly better past, I was blind. After repeated refusals to open up and the slights that came hand in hand with such ordeals, I finally caved in. My friends were there to cushion my fall and I was able, after so much turmoil, to finally move on.

It does not matter the truth surrounding Jacob's current situation. He could be still in love with me. He could be "turned off" by my unparalleled excellence. He could have gotten tired of my constant urging of him to open up. Whatever the case, I am done finding people who need fixing. When guys come to me, they must be already in shape, as much so as they're going to get. Further "changing" is out of the question. I've finally realized that even if I were capable of changing a guy, it would not be my job.

After so much inner hardship that had begun whether I'd admit it or not to eat away at my insides, I can finally say that I've done the most natural and respectable thing - the only thing I hadn't tried. I listened to my six-month-ago self. I "let go."

Lyrics to "Let Go":

Drink up baby doll
Are you in or are you out?
Leave your things behind
'Cause it's all going off without you
Excuse me too busy you're writing your tragedy
These mishaps
You bubble-wrap
When you've no idea what you're like

[Chorus:]
So, let go, let go
Jump in
Oh well, what you waiting for?
It's all right
'Cause there's beauty in the breakdown
So, let go, let go
Just get in
Oh, it's so amazing here
It's all right
'cause there's beauty in the breakdown

It gains the more it gives
And then it rises with the fall
So hand me that remote
Can't you see that all that stuff's a sideshow?
Such boundless pleasure
We've no time for later
Now you can't await
your own arrival
you've twenty seconds to comply

[Chorus:]
So, let go, so let go
Jump in
Oh well, what you waiting for?
It's alright
'Cause there's beauty in the breakdown
So, let go, yeah let go
Just get in
Oh, it's so amazing here
It's all right
'Cause there's beauty in the breakdown

[Background sounds]

[Chorus:]
So, let go,
Jump in
Oh well, what you waiting for?
It's alright
'Cause there's beauty in the breakdown
So, let go, yeah let go
Just get in
Oh, it's so amazing here
It's all right
'Cause there's beauty in the breakdown

In the breakdown
'Cause there's beauty in the breakdown
The breakdown

So amazing here
'Cause there's beauty in the breakdown

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Monday, January 4, 2010

"Pale Fire" by Vladimir Nabokov

Instead of commenting on a song today, I decided to share with you an excerpt from the commentary I am doing on Nabokov's "Pale Fire." "Pale Fire" is a poem written by Nabokov taking on the alias of his own fictional character, John Shade.

This section of my commentary is an anomaly because I am successfully keeping personal anecdotes for the most part out of my analysis, even though it could be as self-geared as I wanted. However, upon seeing the world "abyss," I had no choice but to succumb.

Line 805: “And stop investigating my abyss?”

He wrote a piece once, called “Abyss.” It’s what brought us together because I played it on cello. We rehearsed, sometimes by ourselves. He thought I was beautiful. I could see it in his eyes. I’m sure I noticed that his face was flawless and that he moved with a grace unlike that of any other I’d seen. But it wasn’t until 3 months later that I bothered to let such discoveries take hold.

He told me several months later to stop investigating him. It was his life. Why was I trying to decide it for him? Why was I stomping around all self-righteous thinking I could bring him back to where we once resided, when he in a fit of shameless denial, kept insisting that he did not want to return?

We were both sinking into madness, the “abyss” that his piece had depicted so well. I wanted to stop it, because I knew it was all wrong. I knew he was honest and brave and all the qualities he was hiding from all of our views. I knew he loved me just as before and that he struggled with it alone when no one else could hear him or in his head when the world around him appeared to be focused elsewhere.

I hoped beyond belief that he would come around. After all, he was the male equivalent of me. We were fit for each other – fashioned, made and sculpted. The only forces coming between us were those of physical distance, immaturity, and simply, the different dynamics between our genders. Those are all things that can be either eliminated or accepted. But I never accepted these feelings. I kept them hidden in hopes to protect myself from the storm that would hit if I were to succumb.

Recently, I did. I did because of a coincidence, a turn of events that showed his lingering feelings and his honest nobility. I did because I knew that no matter what happens between us, we cycle back to find each other, every time in the same condition – every time powerful. I did because with six months left to live in close proximity, I had no other choice. I can only hope it will be for the best.

Friday, January 1, 2010

"The Planets Bend Between Us" by Snow Patrol

Dear Jacob,

I chose this song on a whim, just because the title popped into my head. I hadn't heard the words hardly, but when I looked them up, they fit my purpose. The words remind me of the water we first kissed by and "Slumdog Millionaire." which first brought me to you.

The reason I'm writing so to speak directly to you now and not merely about you is actually quite practical. I feel so comfortable with you and your acceptance of me that I used to pour out all my emotions, both negative and positive to you. It was as if I was always as drunk as I was last night. I had no common sense. I used you and didn't appreciate you. If I've come to any realization, it's that I need to deal with my feelings myself instead of loading them out on you. So I scream at the mirror, write angry emails to myself and when I'm more coherent, this blog, so that you may never see what I feel past the capacity of your sensitive knowledge.

I read some of the old chats I'd saved in which you were sweet and taking care of me as best you could. When you were mean and lashed out, you were protecting yourself from a fanatic moron who did not know what she was doing. I'm sure you could and should have done so with more tact, but nevertheless, your actions are ones that I cannot completely hold against you because you forgive me every time.

Last night, my "freezing speech bubbled" as the song described. I started out fine, I imagine, and you thought I was joking as usual. But of course, I had to reveal myself and you knew that everything I was saying was my subconscious speaking - deep truths that I consistently touch upon but for practicality's sake will never completely address. Later, you asked me if I was okay and told me not to worry. You told me not to be sorry.

The truth is something I could never say. I know who you are now and I want you. I want you more than I wanted you before. I want you more than I wanted Edward. It's an aching pain that feels so real - like I myself am missing something. And it's an aching pain that because of my misgivings, regardless of your buried feelings, can most likely not be overturned. Nevertheless, I will continue to hope for the rest of the school year that remains. Perhaps I cannot turn it around. But I think you can.

Happy New Year.

Lyrics to: "The Planets Bend Between Us":

The winters mar the Earth
It's floored with frozen glass
You slip into my arms
And you quickly correct yourself
Your freezing speech bubbles
Seem to hold your words aloft
I want the smoky clouds of laughter
To swim about me forever more

I will race you to the waterside
And from the edge of Ireland shout out loud
So they could hear it in America
It's all for you

The shells crack under our shoes
Like punctuation points
The planets bend between us
A hundred million suns and stars
The sea filled in this silence
Before you sank those words
And now even in the darkness
I can see how happy you are

I will race you to the waterside
And from the edge of Ireland shout out loud
So they could hear it in a America
It's all for you

It's all for you [x5]

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Thursday, December 31, 2009

"The Call" by Regina Spektor

Dear Jacob,

I guess I just have some things to get out that I can't tell you and can't tell anyone else directly. But they need to be said. For some reason, ever since we've started talking like old times, I've had this ulcer-like feeling in my stomach. My appetite is starting to fade. My nerves are constantly on edge and I constantly feel like my heart is about to pop out into my throat. Ever since that night you called me "dear", I've been slowly melting. When you agreed that the day I broke up with you should be fucked, it didn't exactly help. When you said you needed to get out of your house, it just put ideas into my head - ideas which at this time, just don't seem possible to actuate. You are quite possibly subconsciously leading me on an adventure I didn't choose to embark upon - one that chose me instead.

I know we have the rest of our lives ahead of us, Jacob. And I know so much has happened - a lot of which I've emoted in this blog. But the truth is, we can't keep making arguments against the blaring evidence I'm about to describe without knowing underneath that we are lying. We can say all we want to avoid what life deemed for us as inevitable. I mean seriously? We only have 6 months. How could rekindling an "ended" relationship be worth it in that time. Why feel uncomfortable in regards to your parents and your upbringing and culture if it's not worthwhile? Why should I put myself through more pain again when I could just cut off and pretend it doesn't exist? Well. The answer, unfortunately for both of our cases, is quite simple. The feelings we both have just won't accept these claims. Both you and I are good at hiding feelings from ourselves and pretending they don't exist. But after every little inkling of denial has been counted up to this point, it's getting to the point where it's becoming unbearable. My heart can hardly contain it and it's not because I'm crazy. It's because ever since July I have felt the bulk of this situation and I can't deny that it's the wrongest thing I have ever witnessed - two people who are without a doubt meant to be together acting like complete idiots and searching for ways all around to world to deny such a fact. It's abominable! That's why I've been waiting all day to ask you to get your ass over here and I will wait as long as I need to because there is no way in hell that I can make peace with myself in this sorry state.

Though you've never been able to say it to my face, on AIM you always say, "Shit happened. It's time to move on." Perhaps in most cases, this is a rule to live by. But if that is so, this is an exception. For too long have we been looping back for a reason we've been too afraid to coin. When you're involved, there's "no need to say goodbye."

Lyrics to: "The Call":

It started out as a feeling
Which then grew into hope
Which then turned into a quiet thought
Which then turned into a quiet word
And then that word grew louder and louder
Till it was a battle cry
I'll come back when you call me
No need to say goodbye

Just because everything's changing
Doesn't mean it's never been this way before
All you can do is try to know who your friends are
As you head off to war
Pick a star on the dark horizon and follow the light
You'll come back when it's over
No need to say goodbye
You'll come back when it's over
No need to say goodbye

Now we're back to the beginning
It's just a feeling and no one knows yet
But just because they can't feel it, too
Doesn't means that you have to forget
Let your memories grow stronger and stronger
Till they're before your eyes
You'll come back when they call you
No need to say goodbye
You'll come back when they call you
No need to say goodbye

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Saturday, December 26, 2009

"If Everyone Cared" by Nickelback

I say I hate her. I say I want to kill her. All these things I say and most likely mean at the time. However, no temporary situation can squelch the love in my heart for all with whom I relate. If I get to know someone, regardless of the means through which I do it, I always end up seeing inside them. I always end up relating to their emotions and feeling them through my own lens. After I have done this, I cannot help but love the admirable side of them and downplay the other dimensions.

Her in the most recent case is a girl named Elsie. We met because she was into Jacob and I was feeling, as usual, quite territorial. It's been a rocky road since our meeting. She and I would pretend above all else to love each other but the unspoken rivalry between us and her questionable treatment of my friends often made this act difficult to pull off. However, the truth is, I like her. As I've seen in many cases, it is very hard to dislike a fellow musician, even if she is attempting to steal the partial love of your life. Musicians are all formed from a similar passion that links us inevitably together.

The more complex forgiveness that I have repeatedly undergone is more deeply rooted in my psyche. My friends both marvel and criticize my ability to completely atone those who have done me wrong. Those who heard me cry and curse over Edward now wonder why I bashfully tear at the thought of his and my future reunion. Perhaps this aren't so hard to fathom. Edward we all know is hardly a bad person and time can heal the scars of awkward misunderstandings caused by immaturity.

What people tend less to understand is my perpetual willingness to see Jacob for more than his flaws, looking past his harsh and insecure denial to focus merely on the truth. How and why do I do this? I'm not quite sure. At first I thought it was my desire to control him. Then I thought it was merely the fact that he is unforgettably attractive to me. But neither seems to be the cause. I honestly feel that my continual forgiveness of Jacob comes from the fact that I understand him. I can look beyond his treatment of me to see him as an insecure and growing person who I refuse to believe cannot change. I do not know where I gained the heart and maturity to do this. All I know is that forgiveness gives me a flexible power that instead of demeaning me as others might say, gives me confidence. It allows me to view everyone as a work in progress instead of drawing a somewhat arbitrary and final line between assholes and angels. It allows me to fully believe in the potential existence of a world where "everyone cared."

Lyrics to "If Everyone Cared":
From underneath the trees, we watch the sky
Confusing stars for satellites
I never dreamed that you'd be mine
But here we are, we're here tonight

Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive

[Chorus:]
If everyone cared and nobody cried
If everyone loved and nobody lied
If everyone shared and swallowed their pride
Then we'd see the day when nobody died

And I'm singing

Amen I, Amen I, I'm alive
Amen I, Amen I, Amen I, I'm alive

And in the air the fireflies
Our only light in paradise
We'll show the world they were wrong
And teach them all to sing along

Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
Singing Amen, I, I'm alive
(I'm alive)

Link to Music Video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WOwJSpt2m_w

[Chorus x2]

And as we lie beneath the stars
We realize how small we are
If they could love like you and me
Imagine what the world could be

If everyone cared and nobody cried
If everyone loved and nobody lied
If everyone shared and swallowed their pride
Then we'd see the day when nobody died
When nobody died...

[Chorus]

We'd see the day, we'd see the day
When nobody died
We'd see the day, we'd see the day
When nobody died
We'd see the day when nobody died

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

"Disturbia" by Rihanna

Yes. "My mind's in disturbia." They all say that once you get into college, you can stop working. It doesn't matter anymore. The future is set. Schoolwork becomes a choice as opposed to an obligation. However, these people are clearly generalizing. They have forgotten the horrific right that colleges have to rescind a student whose grades sufficiently lack. Now - my college couldn't have possibly accepted me based on my grades. They got passed my lacking grades in the math and science areas to see the qualities I had to offer. However, if my grades in senior year are lacking below an 80 that is, they have every right to doubt my performance in college. Perhaps their doubts would be different from the truth but I still have every reason to fear for my grades. My math and science ones aren't looking to hot. Granted I will study hard for the final exams but a future opportunity cannot still the aching pain and worry that rushes through my anxious body. Keeping my math and science grades at a minimal 80 will be a struggle that will not allow me to breathe securely until February, though as we all know, I will not fully breathe securely until I am at college - and maybe not even then.

Perhaps my worry is healthy and will motivate me to work harder and beast the upcoming finals. However, with deeper thought, I traced this "disease of the mind" back to something that is totally unrelated to school:

I just cannot believe that I will be attending my top choice college - the one that has always been the bud of my dreams subconsciously before consciously - the one that I can comfortably call my home - the one where Edward is. I just cannot wrap my head around this supposed truth. If it is indeed as true as others tell me and as I have seen multiple times with my own eyes, than it can only be a fairytale. Sadie tells me to believe it and not think of it as a fairytale. It would be wise to take her advice but I can't help being overwhelmed by the momentousness of it all.

I, being an inherent drama queen who takes every opportunity in which she cares to shadow it with worry, cannot rid my mind of disturbia. Perhaps I shall in the coming days when my math scores improve. I can only sit tight, hope, and beast the finals. It seems mundane and useless but with my future still on the line regardless of common ED acceptance myths, it can only be described as practical and thusly necessary.

Lyrics to "Disturbia":

Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum

What's wrong with me?
Why do I feel like this?
I'm going crazy now

No more gas in the rig
Can't even get it started
Nothing heard, nothing said
Can't even speak about it
All my life on my head
Don't want to think about it
Feels like I'm going insane
Yeah

It's a thief in the night
To come and grab you
It can creep up inside you
And consume you
A disease of the mind
It can control you
It's too close for comfort

Throw on your brake lights
We're in the city of wonder
Ain't gonna play nice
Watch out, you might just go under
Better think twice
Your train of thought will be altered
So if you must faulter be wise
Your mind is in disturbia
It's like the darkness is the light
Disturbia
Am I scaring you tonight
Disturbia
Ain't used to what you like
Disturbia
Disturbia

Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum

Faded pictures on the wall
It's like they talkin' to me
Disconnectin' your call
Your phone don't even ring
I gotta get out
Or figure this shit out
It's too close for comfort

It's a thief in the night
To come and grab you
It can creep up inside you
And consume you
A disease of the mind
It can control you
I feel like a monster

Throw on your brake lights
We're in the city of wonder
Ain't gonna play nice
Watch out, you might just go under
Better think twice
Your train of thought will be altered
So if you must faulter be wise
Your mind is in disturbia
It's like the darkness is the light
Disturbia
Am I scaring you tonight
Disturbia
Ain't used to what you like
Disturbia
Disturbia

Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum

Release me from this curse I'm in
Trying to maintain
But I'm struggling
You can't go, go, go
I think I'm going to oh, oh, oh

Throw on your brake lights
We're in the city of wonder
Ain't gonna play nice
Watch out, you might just go under
Better think twice
Your train of thought will be altered
So if you must faulter be wise
Your mind is in disturbia
It's like the darkness is the light
Disturbia
Am I scaring you tonight
Disturbia
Ain't used to what you like
Disturbia
Disturbia

Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum
Bum bum be-dum bum bum be-dum bum

Link to Music Video:

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

"Can't Go Back Now" by The Weepies

This is a time full of angst, insecurity, and heartache as I and many of my close friends wait tirelessly for the one letter, email, or online post that determines our future paths. The work piled on from school and music school has prevented me for days from writing this blog. Now, as we have reached the "deep breath before the plunge," as Gandalf would say, I feel I must somehow depict my view of the current situation.

There is one school - the one that Jacob, Miranda and Drake all applied to - that reeled in 45 EA applicants from my high school. They are living in the midst of a hazy double standard. They all expect to be one of the select few that this college chooses to be amongst their student body, at the same time knowing that their chances are very bleak as a result of such tantalizing competition. Miranda loses sleep, freaks out, becomes impatient. Drake hopes while simultaneously putting himself down low in order to cushion what he believes is a likely fall. Jacob, as one might expect, detaches himself completely - saying that worrying is pointless. Meanwhile, I know he is worried out of his mind. But that's besides the point. If Jacob were truly in sync with his claims, he would be sporting the right attitude - the one we should all be striving for - the one I feel that to some extent I have achieved.

I applied to my top choice college because I could truly not imagine myself at any other place. Though not having been there for longer than a few weeks, I could call the place my home. Its undeniable place in my future, as my instinct would confirm, washed over me to the point that I had no doubt that I must apply Early Decision. Believe it or not, this had nothing to do with the fact that Edward attends the school. Of course, back in February, even before Edward was accepted, I knew that I would inevitably end up at that school. However, that vision existed on a different plane. The plane I'm on now is more in sync with the reality in which we all live. And this plane is not conducive to such a surreal type of confidence. It is open to the possibility of rejection and deferral in the light of those who are applying alongside me and have different but equally competent qualifications.

I will be informed of this college's place in my future in the coming days. Perhaps I am nervous that someone else with higher grades or more national recognition for their talents will deprive me of my spot. However, my overwhelming confidence that this school will see the way in which I shine for them and in general shields me from this worry. I am not losing sleep. I am not even phased out. I expect to become a part of this artsy, avant-garde student body. I have done everything I can to maximize the odds of my acceptance. As I say to all who struggle in the face of the unknown, we "Can't Go Back Now."

Lyrics to "Can't Go Back Now":

Yesterday when you were young
Everything you needed done was done for you
Now you do it on your own
But you find you're all alone, what can you do?

You and me walk on, walk on, walk on
'Cause you can't go back now

You know there will be days
When you're so tired
That you can't take another step
The night will have no stars
And you'll think you've gone as far
As you will ever get

You and me wak on, walk on, walk on
'Cause you can't go back now

And yeah, yeah, you go where you want to go
Yeah, yeah, be what you want to be
If you ever turn around, you'll see me

I can't really say
Why everybody wishes they were somewhere else
But in the end, the only steps that matter
Are the ones you take all by yourself

You and me walk on, walk on, walk on
Yeah, you and me walk on, walk on, walk on
'Cause you can't go back now
Walk on, walk on, walk on
You can't go back now

Link to Music Video:

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

"Invisible" by Taylor Swift

I guess everyone feels Invisible at times. It's a large world out there and everyone, at least in a wide crowd, tends to blend in. In many cases, I have avoided such problem. My personality is loud and bouncy. I look rather unique. The hobbies I engage in are slightly atypical. However, as I've gotten older and joined the mix of teenage girls searching for love and companionship, I've started to realize how invisible I really am. I am no more than a victim of my circumstances. I can only choose from the selection of people that life has conveniently placed before me. I cannot breach these boundaries. I am breathtaking to some and just a pretty face to others. What's especially hard to fathom is how I could be breathtaking to someone for a period of time and then become just a pretty face without any explanation.

It's funny wondering how exactly I will make a mark on this world when there are millions of people simultaneously wondering the same thing. We are all invisible to some extent. To some men, colleges, and business owners, we will all be that girl walking down the hallway, hopelessly wishes they'd turn our way. But to the right men, colleges and business owners, we will not be. It takes work to stand out. Hard core work. That is why this blog is short because my top choice college will be coming out with its decision soon. If my first quarter grades aren't solid, there'll be a problem. So I must go study. Thanks to Taylor for cheering me up.

Lyrics to "Invisible":

She can’t see the way your eyes light up when you smile
She’ll never notice how you stop and stare whenever she walks by
And you can’t see me wantin you the way you want her
But you are everything to me

[Chorus:]
And I just wanna show you
She don’t even know you
She's never gonna love you like I want to
You just see right through me but if you only knew me
We could be a beautiful miracle unbelievable instead of just invisible

There’s a fire inside of you that can’t help but shine through
She’s never gonna see the light
No matter what you do
And all I think about is how to make you think of me
And everything that we could be

[Chorus]

Like shadows in a faded light
Oh we’re Invisible
I just wanna look in your eyes and make you realize

I just wanna show you she don’t even know you
Baby let me love you let me want you
You just see right through me
But if you only knew me
We could be a beautiful miracle unbelievable instead of just invisible

She can’t see the way your eyes light up when you smile


Link to Music Video:

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

"Gravity" by Sara Bareilles

When I first heard this song, I didn't find it particularly captivating. I knew I should and that in the future I would. Anya loved it. She told me she listened to it nonstop. I found myself wondering why it hadn't made me stop in my tracks the first time. However, recently, when perusing YouTube and Dilandau.com, I had a sudden impulse to download it. It's been in my head ever since.

They say that true love only happens once. But to me, it's happened twice - at least in the way that it happens to anyone. What is love anyway? A disproportional care for someone such that you're willing to give up your own short-term happiness in hopes to achieve a long-term one with him? A intense variation of attraction that gives you shivers by the mere memory of a smile? Perhaps these things are involved, but what love really is is gravity. It's that inevitable pull that ties you to the person in question, bringing you back to them even when your feet, mind and even spirit have carried you far away. I've had this feeling twice, obviously - about Edward first, then Jacob. My conscience, in relation to my own well-being was telling me to move on. My instinct professed the opposite. And denying it only led to more pain.

I see Jacob in the hallway. Even with those ridiculous shorts that he wears in the middle of November, he is beautiful. His hair with its perfect curls shapes the lovely contours of his head. His eyes may be brown, but with the way they shine, they might as well be green. His skin, milky and smooth emits a light that hits me from yards away. The sound of his presence in the room is too loud to ignore, no matter how many mental ear plugs I expend in vain.

Feeling this way, it is impossible for me to pretend otherwise. I have tried. I have tried more times perhaps than I have with Edward and I have failed every time. So I'm going to try something new. I am going to surrender to his gravity in the time we have left. I am going to give him my full soul. Like I did with my application to my top choice college, I will hold nothing back. This is meant to happen and I know it. Therefore I must chill and let the pain pass as it will. Love is gravity. And I am in love.

Lyrics to "Gravity":

Something always brings me back to you.
It never takes too long.
No matter what I say or do I'll still feel you here 'til the moment I'm gone.

You hold me without touch.
You keep me without chains.
I never wanted anything so much than to drown in your love and not feel your reign.

[CHORUS:]
Set me free, leave me be. I don't want to fall another moment into your gravity.
Here I am and I stand so tall, just the way I'm supposed to be.
But you're on to me and all over me.

You loved me 'cause I'm fragile.
When I thought that I was strong.
But you touch me for a little while and all my fragile strength is gone.

[CHORUS]

I live here on my knees as I try to make you see that you're everything I think I need here on
The ground.
But you're neither friend nor foe though I can't seem to let you go.
The one thing that I still know is that you're keeping me down

Link to Music Video:

Thursday, November 19, 2009

"You're Not Sorry" by Taylor Swift

He chatted me last night. He used commenting on my AIM status as an excuse. But Jacob doesn't care for exhibitionist AIM statuses in any shape or form. He wanted to talk to me and he succeeded. I guess I was taken aback at first but once I got used to his flashing green icon lighting up my screen, I asked him to send me music. He kept the links coming, pasting them mechanically into the chat window. Some of them caught my ears, such as Kashmir by Led Zeppelin and Optimistic by Radiohead, that he particularly liked. We mentioned nothing about the relationship or about his motives in chatting me. I already knew, of course. He wants the pieces out of me but will not admit it. He didn't even know it when he rejected my proposal but he cannot bear the fact that I'm actually okay with his absence from my life. It reminds me of when he described the feelings he felt for me in the beginning but could not piece them together to just simply define it as "liking." He has not ever analyzed the emotions he feels so he cannot express them or apply them to a conventional setting. And I'm no longer there to do that for him.

The sad thing is: I still have feelings for Jacob. I still sometimes fantasize about the future we could have had if he'd opened up to his own desires. The impulses are sometimes so strong that it "makes me wonder" as our favorite song "Stairway to Heaven" by Led would say, if the future won't re-merge our paths. But then I realize, as good old Taylor would say, that Jacob is not sorry for what he has done. He may want me. He may want the awkwardness to go away. He might not know, as I do, what he wants. But he doesn't want to apologize and until he does, there is no future for me and him. You see, there have been situations in my life - with Edward mainly, when both of us were to blame. Our apologies or lack thereof cancel each other out. However, with Jacob, if he strives to be my friend again without apologizing for his awful actions, giving in is giving myself another blow to the head. As I knew but wouldn't accept before I turned to him again, is that the best way to teach him a lesson is to stop trying to teach him lessons - to walk away and let him wallow in his own regret. That's not to say I won't accept him if he comes with a sincere apology.

As for now, Jacob is just grasping for control. He cannot accept the fact that he has lost and landed himself in an awkward situation that puts a dent in his whole "move through life without a care" philosophy. Well it seems like my departure may give him motivation to care. Either that, or he's not worth my care at all. Ah the paradoxes of life. I'm going to have to go with Taylor on this one.

Lyrics to "You're Not Sorry":

All this time I was wasting,
Hoping you would come around
I've been giving out chances every time
And all you do is let me down
And it's taking me this long
Baby but I figured you out
And you're thinking we'll be fine again,
But not this time around

You don't have to call anymore
I won't pick up the phone
This is the last straw
Don't wanna hurt anymore
And you can tell me that you're sorry
But I don't believe you baby
Like I did - before
You're not sorry, no no oh

Looking so innocent,
I might believe you if I didn't know
Could've loved you all my life
If you hadn't left me waiting in the cold
And you got your share of secrets
And I'm tired of being last to know
And now you're asking me to listen
Cause it's worked each time before

But you don't have to call anymore
I won't pick up the phone
This is the last straw
Don't wanna hurt anymore
And you can tell me that you're sorry
But I don't believe you baby
Like I did - before
You're not sorry, no no, oh

You're not sorry no no oh

You had me crawling for you honey
And it never would've gone away, no
You used to shine so bright
But I watched all of it fade

So you don't have to call anymore
I won't pick up the phone
This is the last straw
There's nothing left to beg for
And you can tell me that you're sorry
But I don't believe you baby
Like I did - before
You're not sorry, no no oh

You're not sorry, no no oh

Link to Music Video:

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

"Better Days" by The Goo Goo Dolls

It's been a while since I've written. The term "daily blog" seems to have taken quite a flexible meaning lately. However, now that my life is a bit back in order for a moment, I shall take the time to resume. I'm not really sure what to say or how my present situation relates back to this song. I'm lost in a series of unknowns right now, but yet I know exactly where I need to be. The epic feel of this year is too great at this point for me to express it. Perhaps music could, but my songs are even failing to convey the immense emotion that spreads across my world, changing its previous state. I will let this song speak for itself. I will let my life play out as it's meant to. I will charge forward with confidence and I will take this year head on. It's finally time to begin.

Lyrics to "Better Days":

And you ask me what I want this year
And I try to make this kind and clear
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
Cause I don't need boxes wrapped in strings
And designer love and empty things
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days

So take these words
And sing out loud
Cause everyone is forgiven now
Cause tonight's the night the world begins again

I need someplace simple where we could live
And something only you can give
And thats faith and trust and peace while we're alive
And the one poor child who saved this world
And there's 10 million more who probably could
If we all just stopped and said a prayer for them

So take these words
And sing out loud
Cause everyone is forgiven now
Cause tonight's the night the world begins again

I wish everyone was loved tonight
And somehow stop this endless fight
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days

So take these words
And sing out loud
Cause everyone is forgiven now
Cause tonight's the night the world begins again
Cause tonight's the night the world begins again

Link to Music Video:

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

"Blank Wall" by Kerani (Me)

I wanted to change them. I wanted to open them up to the beauties of the world that they'd always been in the habit of bobbing through. Edward and Jacob were both my projects so to speak. I loved them both momentously but I loved them mostly through the lens of trying to bring them out or trying to help them reach their true potential as emotional human beings. Part of me genuinely longed to be connected with them. I constantly sought to make them whole and felt that in the process I could feel complete myself. Both times I was wrong. I did not make Jacob or Edward any more whole than they were to start with and I only ended up walking away empty handed.

I wrote this song the first time after I walked away from Edward. My subconscious clearly knew that he wasn't going to budge, but my heart kept hoping. Jacob knew the song well. He'd added some chord progressions to it long ago so that the song would modulate. He always said he never paid attention to the words, but he recently referenced them in hopes to persuade me to give up on him. "I'm a blank wall," he said. "There's nothing to get to know."

I realized that the similar catastrophic endings of my relationships with Jacob and Edward come from a similar thread in my personality. I search for people whom I believe I can fix. Much of my self-worth comes from my belief that I can make such loners whole. I prize myself on having an inherent ability to reach inside and plant some of my security into their inexperienced vaults. However, things never go as I plan, partially because people who do not wish to open up often are content with their condition. They do not like to be pushed against their will and often become defensive in the process. I set myself up for the hurtful repercussions of their defensiveness by refusing to give up on their changeability until they explode and I am forced by the inkling of sensibility I have to cut off all ties.

I often think of the loss of such struggles as failures. However, today, I came to a different conclusion. My goal in transforming these people from stolid zombies into emotionally expressive human beings often is not involved with my own happiness. I am constantly aware that I will have to go through pain to improve the situations of these people. So when Edward and Jacob blew up and released their anger on me, I was in fact accomplishing my goal. My happiness was never part of the equation and I'd accepted that fact. Edward and Jacob's anger and annoyance were clear indications of their emotional responses to me and my escapades. As my current AIM status states, "a blank wall moved through annoyance is still a blank wall moved." I did not receive any personal gain apart from knowledge at the end of such travails. However, I did accomplish my goals by cracking two blank walls, allowing them to experience their own anger, setting the ground for the recognition of emotions in general.

It is this realization that through stress and strife keeps me "standing tall."

Link to Music Video:


Wednesday, November 4, 2009

"Suddenly I See" by K.T. Tunstall

Miranda and I are in the midst of a philosophical discussion. I told her that I feel my life has just taken off from the runway. I am starting to become more and more responsible for my life. I feel like a separate entity from everything I've been in the past. I have a clear purpose and a clear direction in which I want my life and my aspirations to go.

I've realized recently, looking back on my interactions with Jacob and Edward that I can handle anything. I am strong enough to take any pain that's thrown at me and separate it from my self-esteem and my overall identity. Everyone, including Jacob himself, wonders why I have not freed myself of his influence and moved on to brighter possibilities. The answer on my end is simple. His actions against me are separate from his soul. I love his soul with a passion that cannot be unbroken. This love is separate from my short-term well-being. If I am able to take any pain and handle any consequence, I might as well use this power to my advantage. I might as well use the time I have to help him grow. They all say that one person is incapable of changing another. Until I have attempted and failed for the entirety of my life, I will not accept this potential falsehood.

When Jacob asked me today if a lot of people I know analyze people like I do, I answered truthfully, "Nope." Most people do not have the interest or the desire to invest so much energy to such a prospect. I cannot trace the origin of this passion and ability within me, but I know, as I told Jake, that it has been helpful. It convinced Josie to break up with her boyfriend who she had been uselessly sticking with as a comfort for years. It convinced Drake to begin to open up his mind and heart to the world. I watched proudly as the change in him began to show. I do not know why Jacob is so much more of an ordeal. Perhaps because my emotions are so blatantly tied to the situation. I was consistently unable to follow my instinct because my imminent needs got in the way.

However, now that I have through practice acquired the ability to act based on instinct in spite of my imminent needs, my abilities as a psychic analyzer have been magnified. "Suddenly I see, this is what I [am meant] to be". My unbreakable strength paired with my ability to see through people allows me to fix things that need to be fixed and change things that need to be changed.

Jacob once said to me, "Meeting you and the growth I experienced afterwards will be one of the most important things that ever happened to me. I'm sure many others will feel the same way about you; you really influence others' lives."

If that has been the case, then it continues to be regardless of Jacob's present but weakening denial. Hopefully by the end of this year, when Jacob and I are both happy and reformed, I will realize "why the hell it means so much to me."

Lyrics to "Suddenly I See":

Her face is a map of the world
Is a map of the world
You can see she's a beautiful girl
She's a beautiful girl
And everything around her is a silver pool of light
The people who surround her feel the benefit of it
It makes you calm
She holds you captivated in her palm

Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
This is what I wanna be
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
Why the hell it means so much to me

I feel like walking the world
Like walking the world
You can hear she's a beautiful girl
She's a beautiful girl
She fills up every corner like she's born in black and white
Makes you feel warmer when you're trying to remember
What you heard
She likes to leave you hanging on her word

Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
This is what I wanna be
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
Why the hell it means so much to me

And she's taller than most
And she's looking at me
I can see her eyes looking from a page in a magazine
Oh she makes me feel like I could be a tower
A big strong tower
She got the power to be
The power to give
The power to see

Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
This is what I wanna be
Suddenly I see (Suddenly I see)
Why the hell it means so much to me

Link to Music Video:

Monday, November 2, 2009

"This Time" by Vanessa Carlton

"He's totally into you," Sadie said, talking about Jacob. She tends to be right. I wouldn't have fully recognized my current situation had it not been for her impeccable analysis that I cited in an earlier blog and confirmed in a following one. Miranda agreed. She tends to be right as well. However, both these girls were there for my Edward drama and they said the same thing. My Edward drama blew up as a failure. We'd had a connection but it got to the point at which our communication was so dysfunctional that we did not truly know who the other person was anymore.

Had it not been for last night's phone conversation, Jake and I would be in a similar situation. Thankfully, there is an important difference between the two situations. I didn't make out with Edward. If I had, perhaps he would have broken his shell as he did for a minute after we kissed for the first time. Or perhaps the dynamic wouldn't have clicked for either of us. Eventually, I will find out a variation of which would have been the case. However, all I know now is that my situation with Jacob has a lot more promise than the one I had with Edward. The dynamic between Jacob and I could not be better. It's perfect. And both of us know it. That is what makes the emotional component so hard. Our perfect dynamic continues to pull us both back. I accept this fact and he denies it desperately. Last night on the phone, he stopped denying but our situation is still full of unknowns.

Many people wonder why in the universe I'd keep subjecting myself to the pain that Jacob has continually fed me. Jacob wonders this himself it seems. But I don't wonder. The truth is, no matter what happens between Jacob and me, our natural dynamic will remain the same. We are meant to be together. My instinct has finally pointed me in the right direction. His continues to be clouded. Everyone tells me that I do not have the capability to change Jacob. No matter how much of myself I give to him, he will continue to be the same. But for some reason, I cannot ignore the instinct to keep giving. I am and have always been strong enough to take anything. Backing down has never been an option. When a deviation from instinct has caused me pain, I have consistently been strong enough to wrench myself back on track. Now I am back on track. The difference is I must wrench Jacob back on track along with me.

Why am I willing to do this? Why is Jacob's happiness and self-knowledge so important to me? I have a chance for a better life - a life that doesn't involve constant pain and insecurity. But I cannot choose that life, for I only have one year to make a difference in this world and giving in to my own potential happiness is not the way to do it. This future with Jacob, regardless of the intensity of the pain and the emotion to which I am bound to be subjected, is my future. It is the future I have chosen and it is the future that lies along my instinct's path. Denying it would be denying my ability to make a change in the world and in the life of someone who I love more than I loved Edward - more than I've loved any guy.

Say I take the risk and nothing comes of it. Then I will have tried my hardest and failed knowing that I left nothing to regret. Say I take the risk and everything comes of it. Then the only thing I will regret will be the split Jacob and I will inevitably be forced to make at the end of the year. And that is beyond my control. It's time I take charge of what I can control and make a difference. After all, "This Time", I can handle it.

Lyrics to "This Time":
It's 4 a.m. and I'm wide awake
Waiting for my thoughts to fade
A flickering of all of my mistakes
And as the light starts creeping in
I slowly feel
The day I'm missing
But I wouldn't even know where to begin

Do I push to hard?
Or fall to fast?
The moment never seems to last
Will I stop long enough to know

Everybody burns
And when it starts to hurt,
I cry
I feel it in my veins
I just can't walk away,
This time

Your words circle in my head
Weigh so heavy on my chest
And I'm crushed by your expectation
I only want to do some good
Too dumb to know if I could
And I just wanna feel the days I'm in

Do I go to far,
Not far enough?
Why can't I keep my big mouth shut?
And do we lead the life that we should?

Everybody burns
And when it starts to hurt,
I cry
I feel it in my veins
I just can't walk away,
This time

Did I say to much again?
I'm just a girl in a panic
If I tell you my truth
Am I getting through?
It just seems I should confess
Who am I to pretend
This is more than I can carry

Everybody burns
And when it starts to hurt,
I cry
I hold my head up high
I know I'll be alright
This time
I feel it in my veins
I just can't walk away
This time
This time,
This time
This time,
This time

It's 4 am and I'm wide awake
Waiting for my thoughts to fade
It's times like these I see your face

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Sunday, November 1, 2009

"My Immortal" by Evanescence

You know that if I write a blog about my hopes for resolution with Jacob, the next one is going to be a blog filled with pain and misery. I just wasted that beautiful song on this heartless blank wall. His cold words shattered its flowing simplicity.

I'd been excited about the power and reliable accuracy of my instinct. It has allowed me to analyze even the most complicated people so precisely that even they themselves are shocked. But now I see that just because I follow my instinct doesn't mean that other people follow theirs. My instinct is only valuable in relation to myself and my knowledge. In terms of situations, it cannot control or overpower the misguided choices of other people. Just because my instinct allows me to choose the right path does not mean that other people involved will do the same.

"I don't know why I can't tell you to get away from me," he exclaimed incredulously. The fireworks were sounded and the rain was beating down upon Nathanson, the sidewalk, and our heads. I knew why, but I didn't tell him. His instinct is no more than fear. His fear clouds his knowledge of the right path even though the right path haunts him, every month to no end.

"I just don't like you THAT -" (much). He stopped himself and told a milder lie..."way" I believe was the word. I couldn't have cared less. My instinct may not be able to power a situation but it can sift through lies of which Jacob was spewing at me at a rate of about 50 miles per minute.

"I'm such a bad person. Why do you still like me?" Do I like him? Really? No. I could if he opened up his real self but instead, I as of now, I just love him. Simply and plainly. I love him and I love the pain he causes me. It does nothing but suck the life out of me, but it does everything to improve my instinct and teach me about this tortured world in which we live, or at least in which I do. I love his mind. I love his hair and the way we make out. I love his closed persona that I long to open up. And I am too strong to back away from the pain he causes me in multitudes. It's like the blister on my heel caused by those beautiful red flats I was wearing: If I walk long enough, I forget the pain until the next time I put it on.

"I got bored of talking to you." Really? Cause I've always been told I was interesting. Edward and I had that conversation. I may be many things, but I am not boring. If I were truly boring to Jacob, it would be entirely his misjudgment. However, this is not the case. He is drowning helplessly in his futile attempts to come up with an excuse to hide the one emotion that's preventing all that is right from happening:

Fear. Cold, blatant, fear - fear of pressure, fear of commitment, fear of judgment, fear of insecurity. That's all that is responsible for Jacob's lack of perspective in this situation: Fear. I couldn't find the words to tell him, but if he reads this, he will agree. In moments of enlightenment, he has seen it himself. These realizations are followed by hope on my end - hope that the situation will grow into its rightful path. The next day however, I wake up to find that Jacob has elapsed back into his perpetual rut of fear. If I am not the one to break it, no one will. No one will be strong or crazy enough to fight this hard for someone who doesn't even care that I'm fighting.

"I know you're happy now, but I know I could make you happier."
"Oh really?"

Yes, Jacob. Really.

Lyrics to "My Immortal":

I'm so tired of being here
Suppressed by all my childish fears
And if you have to leave
I wish that you would just leave
'Cause your presence still lingers here
And it won't leave me alone

These wounds won't seem to heal
This pain is just too real
There's just too much that time cannot erase

[Chorus:]
When you cried I'd wipe away all of your tears
When you'd scream I'd fight away all of your fears
And I held your hand through all of these years
But you still have
All of me

You used to captivate me
By your resonating light
Now I'm bound by the life you left behind
Your face it haunts
My once pleasant dreams
Your voice it chased away
All the sanity in me

These wounds won't seem to heal
This pain is just too real
There's just too much that time cannot erase

[Chorus]

I've tried so hard to tell myself that you're gone
But though you're still with me
I've been alone all along

[Chorus]

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Friday, October 30, 2009

"Falling Slowly" from the movie "Once"

It's funny. I was going to use this song a while back I think. My fascination with it began on the last day of the summer program I attended at my top choice college. We were packing. None of us wanted to leave. This song was playing on my friend's loudspeaker. I'd had it on my iPod for a while but hadn't listened. But that soon changed.

I can't believe I'm writing this blog now. I never thought I would. I thought I was doing fine - following my instinct, letting it take me to new shores, new people and a new life. However, when I started getting closer to fulfilling a defining part of this new life, I started to back away. I can't fully tell you why. I like the guy. He seems cool and nice and awesome. If it had been another time in our lives, I know for sure that we would have gone out and been really happy. However, at this time, my instinct just isn't pushing for it. I don't have the strength to go after him. He isn't moving quickly enough towards me and even if he were, I wouldn't have the strength to respond. Nothing has happened that's concrete enough to make my backing away a moral issue. I just am astounded because I have never been the one to back away. I'm always the one to push. Now I'm finding myself at a different stage of life: more mature, jaded and full of perspective.

It is my instinct that has given me this perspective - the same instinct that has guided me consistently for the past few months. It is this instinct that has prevented me from concretely acting on this connection I have - because I know see that it's not the path I'm meant to take.

Over the summer, while at my top choice school, I made a silly mistake. I broke up with my boyfriend for no reason other than the fact that I was restless. The spiteful battles of anger that ensued after were a result of our hurt and dislike for the current situation. None of it was supposed to happen. In going against instinct, I harmed myself and him and the dynamic of our relationship. It was in essence a working relationship between two immature people. It turned into a bitter fight and the immaturity sent it way over the edge. The reason I cannot move on with my life is because I am not meant to. You can say that he is preventing me from leading a lovely new life with lovely new people and a new hope. But in fact, my feelings for him are the blame and I know now that they are not and are not meant to go away.

So why did I choose this song? I know why. I'm not ready to share it because of the immense impact this decision has on my life. But you might be able to decipher. What I will say is that life is short - too short to hold grudges, too short to shun people you love for little reason at all, too short to force the expelling of feelings that are not meant to be expelled. This year is important to me. Of all the many ways in which I could spend it, my instinct is pointing towards one. And it is right. Life is too short not to rethink. And there's "still time" to do so, but not much so it's time I "take this sunken boat and point it home."

Lyrics to "Falling Slowly":

I don't know you
But I want you
All the more for that
Words fall through me
And always fool me
And I can't react
And games that never amount
To more than they're meant
Will play themselves out

Take this sinking boat and point it home
We've still got time
Raise your hopeful voice you have a choice
You'll make it now

Falling slowly, eyes that know me
And I can't go back
Moods that take me and erase me
And I'm painted black
You have suffered enough
And warred with yourself
It's time that you won

Take this sinking boat and point it home
We've still got time
Raise your hopeful voice you had a choice
You've made it now
Falling slowly sing your melody
I'll sing along

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Wednesday, October 28, 2009

"Fall to Pieces" by Matt Nathanson

There are some things that occur in my life that would surely make me "fall to pieces." Not getting into my top choice school that I applied to today would do the job easily. Not getting my album recorded by the end of the year would be a downer as well.

Today was a tumultuous day for me. I applied to a huge arts competition. Everything was a catastrophe but I finally submitted it even though the Fed-Ex people were very clear about the dangers of sending a package past 8 pm. Apparently, the lady who picks the packages up is vicious and lashes out profusely at late-comers. I could see the fear in their faces as they described her demeanor.

This competition is a big deal to me. I can't say I would "fall to pieces" if I didn't win. For music competition, judging is subjective. I know I'm at a high enough level to be a good candidate for the grand prize. However, I could never be sure that they would choose me over someone like him, who is equally qualified. He was the one who told me about this competition last year before we got close and vulnerable and hurt. Applying, for some reason, brought me back to where I was when he brought himself and the idea of this competition into the picture. There was so much hope and potential. It got shattered by our immaturities that I feel have petered out at least to some extent.

I've been trying for months to ignore his existence or at least come to peace with it through a variety of round-a-bout ways. None of them have worked. I still have that unquenchable emotion of pure love that creeps in like an evening sunset as a backdrop to all of my contradicting plans. I see my year flash before me. I see myself leave to the Midwest having left things the same with him as they are now. It doesn't feel right - to leave myself unable to give him a proper goodbye. I know this and my instinct knows it as well. It is the only explanation for the pain that I feel when seeing him walk through the halls. It is the only explanation for the gut-wrenching choking emotion I feel when he looks at me.

I'm not saying he was perfect. He has issues. I had issues as well. But what am I supposed to do? Leave my feelings for him in the dust, saying "You have issues and therefore you are not good for me?" Yes that's what self-help books and many people would tell me to do. But my instinct has been nagging at me for way too long. I am trying to go against it but all I am doing is making things more difficult for myself. He may be dangerous. I may get hurt. But it's hurt for someone who knows me - for someone who is and has long been worthwhile. Tell me I am crazy. I am. I have always been crazy and you all know it. But I cannot leave this portion of my life with a chock-full of regret backing me up. My instinct has spoken. And I am prepared to listen. This is my path. It may not be the easiest, but it's the one I am meant to follow and I will follow it best I can. I would "fall to pieces if you never came back".

Lyrics to "Fall to Pieces":
So I wear you out...
So who would've thought that you'd still be here now

And I swore dear
That I never
Wanted to be
Any better
Than your weakest moment

Now
Would you fall to pieces
If I never came back?
Tear it all apart
Til there was nothing left
Would you fall to pieces
If I never came back...
Spent so long waiting here

This was all sweet once
When I was fingertips and innocence

And too scared to
Let go I had my
Arms thread through
The pretty holes
Of your most romantic line

Would you fall to pieces
If I never came back?
Tear it all apart
Til there was nothing left
Would you fall to pieces
If I never came back
Spent so long waiting here

And I've watched them all move through you
Yeah, I've watched them all let you down.

It's do you
And don't you
Cause I won't forget you
You filled me with nothing
It felt so good
It'll all come out some day


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Sunday, October 25, 2009

"Fearless" by Taylor Swift

I have a lot of things to say, but first, I will fill you in on yesterday's decree. It was a good day. It started out miserable and confusing but ended up being wonderful. I wore no makeup yesterday - a positive decision because everyone could see my eyes' true color. I was wearing all purple except for my pants, which were black corduroys.

Walking into chorus, I felt a strange feeling pass over me. Something felt amiss. I had seen Stewart, but something didn't register. It's as if I didn't care even though my waking mind knew on some level that I did. My friend Sadie was standing next to me in the alto section. I described to her my dilemma and her analysis was something that all of you have probably seen all along but to which I had been blind.

She said that I was the problem. It wasn't him. It wasn't his feelings, which are clearly there. It's mine. My feelings for Stewart, in her opinion, had been more of a fact and less an emotion. I just didn't have enough will to make something start. I like him, yes, but it wasn't enough. Class ended and we took the elevator up to the 5th floor. He would never hurt me, she said. There are no cons in terms of my going out with him or taking the situation to the next level. But why should I do it if my heart isn't all into it, she wondered. Won't I just end up more confused?

She was right. The more I thought about Sadie's analysis, the more I realized that I was the problem. Stewart wished me happy birthday four times. He's interested in my life. The sparkle in his eyes show his true feelings. It's me that sends the wrong messages. I talk about him in my blog - to my friends occasionally. But I can't bring myself to treat him as any more than a friend. Sure he knows I'm interested in knowing about him and including him in my life - at least he should know. But he doesn't know that I'm interested on a higher level. I've given no indication. By treating his signs as natural, almost negligible occurrences, I've put myself out as a flirtatious but noncommittal girl who may be interested but not to a significant level. He might know I'm interested from another source, but even then, the signs aren't matching up.

Tantalized by this philosophy and other harsh external factors, my day was quite the mess. However, at studio class, things began to change. He approached me after class and asked how my orchestra piece was coming along. I looked him in the eye and told him it was going well. I left Juilliard a few minutes later. My mom and I went across the street to get some food. It was pouring and I didn't have a jacket - just the purple cotton shrug that served as a horrible absorber of water. As soon as we left the cafe, I had a feeling I was going to see him. The thunder rolled and the sky emitted a sharp ray of cornflower light. My mom and I were laughing. I glanced across the crosswalk and there he was. He had a black umbrella and he approached me on my side of the crosswalk. I stared at him, frozen, and he smiled, waved, and whispered hi. It was a closed smile at first. But then I said "hey", in a tone probably to incredulous for my own good. He smiled bigger now, saw my mom, glanced down still smiling and kept walking.

It started to pour. Gushes of water plummeted harshly on my barely covered shoulders. When we got into the cab, I texted him, "blaming" him and our encounter for the drenched and sorry state of my clothes and possessions. He texted back saying that I was to blame too.

I started to realize the gravity of my contribution to the stagnancy of the relationship. I don't know him. I never knew him. I still don't. The only way for me to move forward in my head and with him is to start. And it's my move. It's my turn to shuffle the cards and ask him to hang out. Only then can I know. What's so heady about coffee anyway? This epiphany, paired with the rain, washed me clear of the past I'd been so heavily caught up in. It was time to move forward. It was time for me, "in a storm in my best dress" to be "fearless."

Lyrics to "Fearless":

There's somethin' 'bout the way
The street looks when it's just rained
There's a glow off the pavement
Walk me to the car
And you know I wanna ask you to dance right there
In the middle of the parking lot
Yeah
Oh yeah

We're drivin' down the road
I wonder if you know
I'm tryin' so hard not to get caught up now
But you're just so cool
Run your hands through your hair
Absent mindedly makin' me want you

And I don't know how it gets better than this
You take my hand and drag me head first
Fearless
And I don't know why but with you I'd dance in a storm in my best dress
Fearless

So baby drive slow
'til we run out of road in this one horse town
I wanna stay right here in this passenger's seat
You put your eyes on me
In this moment now capture it, remember it

Cause I don't know how it gets better than this
You take my hand and drag me head first
Fearless
And I don't know why but with you I'd dance in a storm in my best dress
Fearless

Well you stood there with me in the doorway
My hands shake
I'm not usually this way but
You pull me in and I'm a little more brave
It's the first kiss,
It's flawless,
Really something,
It's fearless.

Oh yeah
And I don't know how it gets better than this
You take my hand and drag me head first
Fearless
And I don't know why but with you I'd dance in a storm in my best dress
Fearless

Yeah
I don't know how
Oh yeah yeah

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